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I wished to have her photograph

Now I think I can understand the feeling of someone who feels they are different from the crowd. People see them with eyes that sucks. Not the eyes of a child who was curious about new objects in front of him, but more like the eyes of a prosecutor, full of suspicion and curiosity to interrogate. That’s what I often seen since I arrived in Korea 1.5 months ago.

One cool morning in Sillim, I went to the supermarket which is located in the traditional market area, closest to the inn. After buying everything I need for breakfast one week to go, I went home. When crossing the street close to the market entrance, I caught another annoying stares from a lady who was standing to my right, not far away and not near. In the position standing sideways and head slightly tilted to the right, strangely looked at me. I could always guess what was in the minds of people who do the same as that lady; “why she has to put a cloth to her head, covered her hair, ears up to his neck?” or “why did she cover her head in such a way?”

Aarrggh! I wish I could take a photo of her expression when she saw me before, and with the photo I will show her that she needs to train her soft skills.

It’s tiring being too concerned with looks and what others think about us which is basically not important at all. Usually I will just think that they know nothing about what I’m wearing because they never seen it before. But sometimes, I reached the limit of patience. Not just on the road, same thing happened when I was on the bus, on the subway and other public places. If only they did it without being caught by me, I don’t have to do something stupid like staring back at them much longer than they did.

Beyond that, I realized two things:

  1. Our grandma was true about what she once told me; They who had lived abroad, especially in countries with very different culture and economy, will be wiser in thought and action.
  2. In the context of community life, apparently living in a heterogeneous environment is more profitable and enjoyable, which actually is not as wide as the Earth God moringa leaf, which looks just the color green. Koreans should not be too proud of their homogeneous. The more you know what is beyond your thinking the Wiser you Become!

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2 thoughts on “I wished to have her photograph

  1. Hi Merve, so sorry for replying so late. 1 month has passed and I just realised that I got a comment on this post. The not so good experience (people stare at me because I’m different) will always possible to be happen if someone lives in homogeneous country, include Japan (Japanese think that they are homogeneous society. Foreigners who go there will think the same because the Japanese share the idea of being homogeneous). They almost never went abroad for most of their life. Why should they live abroad if everything is provided in their homeland. Of course, you will see a big different if you encounter Korean or Japanese who have lived in other country for years. Well, I don’t really like to be a short-minded person. I always think that in such basic matters, I should act like the crowd. For example, I studied the language. Koreans that I met were always so impressive seeing foreigner who can speak Korean (this has something to do with the fact that they never see non-Korean speak Korean). What was so suprising when someone asked me whether I’m a Korean or not. Later, I realised that Korean’s way of thinking is changing. Everyone who speak Korean, respect Korean culture is seen as Korean. I think learning the language is enough to build-up an understanding. Because culture is hidden in the used language and language is used to communicate the culture. In short, you don’t have to worry too much, Merve. What I have experienced and shared it in this post was one of many other experience that let me to be more open-minded person. Living in foreign countries is very challenging. I lived in Thailand for 1.5 years and I enjoyed it a lot. I got friends from Myanmar and Cambodia. We shared good and bad things about our country and its people and we have no problem with that. Where in the earth can you find a place that has no good or has no bad thing about it. Our friendship has encouraged me to go to those countries some day. It’s dangerous if two cultures met and only see about their difference and forgot that actually they shared similarities. Care only the similarities that two cultures shared it’s like turning on the bomb timer which will eventually explode because the valuable difference is just cannot be pressed all the time and the bomb will just destroy the understanding that has been build for the passed years.
    If you are interested in Japanese language, I suggest you to try learn it. It will be more meaningful if you have other aim why you want to study the language, such for study, work, etc. Living in Japan is the most effective way to practice your Japanese. You’re still very young. Try to do different good things and you’ll find your way. I believe that later you’ll be a different person.
    Nice to know you 😉

  2. Well, that must not feel good. I wish I could go to those countries. You seem like a strong woman, who has been trough stuff, you know with people staring at you. I don’t even look like an asian a bit so that’s why, sadly enough, I’ll never fit in with Korea for example. I’m more interested in the Japanese language though. And in Japan sounds worse than Korea. So how did you learn the language? how many years practice? I’m sorry I don’t know anything about you, if you wrote it somewhere, I’m just curios. I’m 13 soon 14 years old and I’m very interested in the Asian countries, I’m from Denmark, a little forgotten country that no one knows about. Do you have any tips or something? Sorry if I have disturbed you, you are kinda admirable. ^^

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